Spy on your lover
Your husband or boyfriend gets a phone call and before you can ask "Who was that?" he's off to the store to buy some milk—which is weird because you just went grocery shopping. Or he returns from jogging with nary a trace of sweat on his brow. Are you dealing with a cheater? He's likely not going to tell you and a private investigator will set you back thousands of dollars. So why not do your own spy work?
Ursula Lebana, owner of Spytech with stores in London, Toronto and Ottawa, says there are a host of spy gadgets these days that make it easier than ever to catch a cheater. "Last week, I had a woman who was very upset—she figured her husband was cheating. So she purchased a semen detection kit."
Lebana says the Checkmate Infidelity Test kit is usually the first one people, male or female, pick up. "You can test underwear, bed sheets, car seats, you name it."
Toronto marital therapist Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem suggests if you are suspicious use whatever it takes to find out if your loved one is cheating. "If you notice a change in their behaviour or if you have a gut feeling it's best to find out what's going on."
Focus your efforts with spyware
Experts advise that you begin your amateur sleuthing by concentrating on one specific area. The computer is a great place to start, especially with dating sites like AshleyMadison.com tailored to philandering married folk.
Lebana recommends investing in a program like Spector Pro Spyware (www.Spector.com) that can be installed in a computer. It acts just like a VCR and records everything from screenshots to emails and websites.
Get the car on your radar
Finding out where a lover is going in the car is also essential in tracking down an unfaithful partner. In these days of GPS trackers, it's easier than ever but Lebana cautions that you're only allowed to install one on your own car, not someone else's.
However, if you have one on the family car and you want to check out any little ‘trips' she advises, "Go to the manufacturers website, log in and it will tell you where the vehicle is now and where it's been."
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