What makes a great lover?

[JennGruden]

Hey all,

Question that may or may not lead to an article for the site: What makes a great lover? Or partner, but I'm specifically thinking of someone that produces that giddy feeling. I'm not asking for anything explicit! But which overall traits have you come to appreciate, either over a long-term relationship, or while getting back in the dating scene? Has it changed over time?

Thanks!
Jenn

[kemptown2002]

For me nothing is a bigger turn on than when my husband looks me in the eyes and gives me his undivided attention. That is when I know that he isn't thinking of anything or anyone else. It's amazing how quickly things can heat up when you take the time to make your partner feel that they are your whole world for that little slice of time....

[vicsin]

I'm with Kemptown! The best sign of a good lover is someone who knows how to pay attention and acts on it. It's the best way to get my attention and funnel it in the right direction.

[angel2061]

I am 48 been married for 33 years to me what makes a great lover is when you are with your lover anywere anytime it always feels like the FIRST TIME.

[KarenJames]

What great answers you women have! Yes!!! Looking into my eyes, giving me his undivided attention...doing things for me just because it gives him pleasure...NOTICING when I am upset and trying to help. So many things, all of which seem to boil down to the fact that he adores me and I adore him. The rest just follows naturally.

[jmryan]

I'm 47 and my "boyfriend" of 2 years knows exactly how I feel by looking at me. I've never had that amount of attention, even during my 22 year marriage. Because of this, I just melt whenever I'm near him. It may be silly but I never thought I would ever find love again.

[carolannstewart]

I think that the definition of a great partner or lover is basically that after you have been intimate, you do things together as a couple... not just have sex and then leave and not be in touch for a week or only be in touch with the intent of having sex... as I am writing this thought came to me - so much like how foreplay increases your sexual desire for your partner, the afterplay increases your emotional desire.. pretty simple really as this makes a person feel special and cared for.

[Loca]

Can anyone tell me something? My last sexual encounter ended up with my male partner not ejaculating, he was able to perform but not finish.... Sorry for the openness, he is 50 and I am 40. I felt like it was my performance that let him down. Am I right? Or is this normal for men of that age? Please anyone respond, I am afraid to have intimacy with him if I am just letting him down...

Loca

[leoniemj]

Hi Loca, This one's for you. I understand how you might feel that it is your fault that he didn't finish. But instead of blaming yourself and getting uptight, talk to him about it. Find out what you can do to help him finish. Be open about it and let him know that you want him to enjoy the experience as much as you do. Remember that no one knows our bodies and like we do,so get him to tell you what feels good to him.

Hope this helps.

[pinghenglin505]

a great lover is that he can respect things you do and will forgive you when you do something wrong! and when you are not happy, he can give you comfort and caress!



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