Is it okay to look for sex on line?

[JackieB]

I have been browsing through http://www.shagpal.com and indulging in the men on there, is it okay to sleep with many men?

[angel]

Looking for sex on line is one thing. Having sex is another. Are you married or single? Are you going through a midlife crisis or you cannot be bothered to look elsewhere. The statement can not be judged by anyone. Only you have the answer. There are so many reasons we look online for sex. A little more info would be helpfull. Talk to you soon.

[Ruth]

Yikes. It is really a jungle out there. When I separated from my husband after 20 years, I got "the chat" from my Doctor on safe sex. It was mortifying. He pointed out, however, that my demographic has the highest rates of increases in STDs. Many women in their late 40's are leaving dead-end marriages and want to have some decent sex... make that: want to have a lot of decent sex (for a change!). Apparently, we tend to get rather caught up in the moment of people we meet, whether on line or wherever, and forget about protection.

So... be careful. A lot of what people say they are like on line is bull. But, if you are discerning, cautious and careful, have FUN!

The other issue is of course whether you are honest with your partners that you are sleeping with more than one person. I think you should be.

[effie]

Yes, as a recently divorced woman in mid-life, yes it's OK to look for sex online....I mean, where do you meet a man in a city as large as Toronto (or anywhere for that matter). The key is to know what you're really looking for and to be honest. If you're looking for a real relationship, you have to go through all the guys who are just looking for sex. And be prepared for a lot of young guys to hit on you...they all seem to be attracted to us older women. It can be fun though...has been for me!

[bradwilson55]

it is i think can be ok... not a big issue....

[TonisTable]

Are U for real or what?? Don't do it girlfriend. There are so,sooo many men out there that "scam U"!! Many of them don't even use their own photos.They say they are from "somewhere" in the US or Canada and they are not! If U care of about UR safety, UR hard earned dollars girl, U will run not walk past this stupid idea of yours. A man, or woman for that matter, can say ANYTHING U want to hear over the net!! Sex is not the ultimate of climates girlfriend if it leads to loosing UR dignity,your money, HIV and all the STD's or the worse of the worse, rape & murder. U are a woman and women can control, so control these urges of URs and be SAFE. I strongly suggest the following: join any and all clubs, associations, organizations, University, Think Tanks U can, anything that U have interest in, there U will find Like-minded people and from that pool U will find UR sole-mate, of that I am positive. Now Go For It girlfriend and forget the web.

[kwayne]

i think ,looking is fine on line i have done it myself.as for sleeping with all of them no.i would nopt do that.you can get all kinds of things from them with sleeping with them.i got off of all ther dating sites because all they want is sex or they will leave that has been my experince.you can sleep with several and never get any where.and also what i found was a lot of guys saying there single only to find out there married.no dont sleep with them all.are you nuts.

kathy

[Buttercup]

NO. It's not okay. You could meet the most wonderful man in the world and you will be sure to lose him, because there would be no FOUNDATION for you to build a relationship if your JUST going to have sex FIRST. Keep your heart open and your legs closed if you want to look for love on line.